• Kelly Tietjen

The Best Self Help Books to Kick Off 2021

I love a good self help book. I have no shame. The Self Help trend has been helping me since before it was trendy. It gives me the motivation to work on my goals every single day which, let's face it, we could all use a little help with around this time of year. Here are my favorite Self Help books and why I stand by them: "Big Magic" by Elizabeth Gilbert

This might be my favorite book of all time. I can't tell you how much this book changed my life. Big Magic is all about living your most creative life and living beyond fear. Back when I was still pounding the pavement regularly to be a working actor - this book gave me so much perspective. You do not need to ask any one's permission to be creative. You don't need to be on the road to fame and fortune to be creative. Creativity is for you and, if you so choose, the world. It's not something you need to put pressure on to make you money or make you "somebody." It's something you should cherish and set free, because the gift of creativity is priceless. So write that novel, sketch that bridge, or create DND characters to your hearts content. Fear can be there but it doesn't drive the car. It's a passenger along for the ride. Seriously - if you're feeling like you're in a creative funk or just feeling down right bored in your life - read this book. I still read it once a year!

The "You Are a Badass" Series by Jen Sincero

Okay, I would be very surprised if you have never heard of the Badass series. Jen Sincero has truly changed the face of Self Help and made it rockstar instead of "therapy session." The book reads like you're talking to your best friend. It's informative yet relaxed. There are currently 4 books in the series which you can find here. I recommend all 4 but start with the first. If Jen decided to keep releasing these books every year I would so be on board. If you've been feeling a little iffy about Self Help - this is the book for you. It's modern, hilarious and you won't be able to put it down.

"The Year of Yes " by Shonda Rhimes

Can Shonda do anything wrong? Well How to Get Away with Murder was pretty terrible but - hey, she's still Shonda Rhimes. Shonda wrote this book after realizing she was spending the majority of her life saying "No" and missing out on opportunities where she could really stretch and grow. She decided to commit to 1 year of saying "Yes" to everything. This led her to extraordinary places and to learn the most sacred lessons of her life. If you're feeling stuck or a little too comfortable, this book will inspire you to get off your ass and try new things. Also it reads like butter. Like I said... she's SHONDA RHIMES!

"Your Best Year Ever" by Michael Hyatt

Okay so this one reads a little bit more on the Self Helpy side, BUT it's filled with tons of great information - from limiting beliefs to learning how to be consistent and specific with your goals on a daily, weekly and quarterly basis. I'm not going to lie, I had to really commit to finishing this book. It's not quippy or fun but it's effective. Actually, I'm going to apply a lot of what I learned from this book to my goals this year. If I've learned anything from years of goal setting, it's that you have to be consistent in working on them. Literally, every day. To be fair - I've given you a lot of fun reads, so please indulge me in at least giving this one a try. You'll learn the most about goal setting from this one!

"Leave Your Mark" by Aliza Licht I'm not sure how this book landed in my lap. I'm pretty sure I saw it on Amazon as a recommended book based on my history. Aliza Licht is the former voice/social media personality "DKNY PR girl." She's in fashion PR and her book is all about creative brand marketing and digital strategy. Back when I was engulfed in the acting world - I leaned on her book to help me navigate the dreaded world of social media and branding. She taught me a lot about putting yourself out there and being consistent. I still have a long way to go in that realm but, her book helped me get one step closer. If you're looking for the same, I highly recommend giving this a ready!

Welp, that's it. One of my goals is to read a book a week this year (already doing well with 2 books down!) Hopefully I'll have even more self help books to recommend. Stay tuned!

Self care, self flare.



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